Open Doors

Do you have a dream for your life?

Do you feel God has given you a gift to use?

If you do, then you have likely felt at some point early in your journey a sense of frustration; frustration that your dream has not yet taken flight, that your gift has not yet been highlighted.  You have been stuck at the starter’s gate, never getting that opportunity to shine, to have real impact. 

Nothing is more discouraging than watching others achieve success in realizing their dream, in harnessing their gift, and you watching from the sidelines, in obscurity.  It’s as if you are watching others have a big party in a room, but you are on the outside looking in.  The door is locked to the room, and all you can do is press your face up to the window and watch from a distance.

Question: how do you get access in to the party? What is the magic key that unlocks the door to achieving your dream, to using your gift for great impact?

The answer is not WHAT

The answer is WHO

I am a dreamer.  I wanted to discover my gifts.  I remember feeling frustrated thinking that I was miles away from achieving what God had planted in me.  I would watch my dad  as the Pastor lead his church and think “how will I ever get to that?” I watched my Worship Pastor, David Basel sing and lead choirs and musical presentations and thought “could I ever be good enough to lead that?”  I remember going to Christian concerts seeing Michael W. Smith, watching him play keyboard with great musicians thinking “how does he do that?”

I played my first solo in Kids Church at 6 years old

Most people would watch around me and simply enjoy and admire.  But me, I had a burning desire to DO THAT.  I admired, for sure, and fell in love with these heroes, watching what they could do.  I prayed to God for an opportunity to begin my personal journey to discover my dreams.

My dad and I are best friends, and have always enjoyed music together

Early on, my dad gave me opportunities to serve in church.  He challenged me to learn hymns (classic songs sung in the church many years ago) on the piano.  My dad was not only the Senior Pastor who led the church, but he was musically gifted.  So, he would many Sundays go to the piano before he preached his message and lead the church in a song.

I could only play decent in 3 keys, so my grandmother covered me on the organ

As I got proficient enough on the piano, he would start the song on the piano and get people singing.  Then, he would motion for me to come over to the piano.  We would literally switch seats on the piano midway through the song.  It was exhilarating for me! I was not very good at piano early on, so my grandmother would play the organ very loud to cover my mistakes.   My dad made space for me to use my gift.

David has always been part of the Pilot Family

My Worship Pastor, David Basel took an interest in me, seeing that I had the dream of leading music in church.  David invited me to assist him with preparation for choir rehearsals.  He gave me small singing parts, and even let me play keyboards after church.  When he saw me trying to learn songs, he celebrated me and invested time in me.  David inspired me to go to the same Christian college as he had in Springfield, Missouri, to audition for their school traveling choir.  Also, he told me stories about a great pianist and music arranger, Winnie Swaim, who taught only the most gifted music students.  As David told me about his college days, my eyes lit up like Christmas lights. 

With the support of my parents, and the belief of my Worship Pastor, I was soon off to Central Bible College in Springfield, Missouri.  There, I auditioned for the school choir, and met Winnie Swaim, who I had the distinct privilege to study music with. 

Winnie Swaim is a legend in the Assemblies of God

She taught me touch on the piano, how to create atmosphere for the Holy Spirit to speak to people as I set the tone with music.  She taught me to arrange music with my eraser, meaning that music needs space and silence, not just lots of notes.  Mrs. Swaim introduced me to my wife, Kellie and called out the gifts and destiny in me as a young man.

Mrs. Swaim introduced me to a young, talented music director, Nate Carter, who founded and led a music group, Frontline – the hottest ticket in town.  I was awe struck by Nate’s edgy music arrangements and cool, talented band and singers.  Nate was a protégé of Winnie Swaim.  It was her endorsement of me that gained me access to Nate’s inner circle.  Nate not only let me play keys in his band, he also gave me opportunities to arrange songs! I could not believe it – to actually hear his Frontline music group singing my arrangement.  I was living my dream.  Nate actually hired me to do music arrangements in the Assemblies of God Media Studios.  I was a college student who was getting to work with the best engineers and musicians in Springfield, all because Nate gave me access.

With Nate and another great Music Director, Dominique!

 While traveling with Frontline to perform at events,  I met friends like Aaron Unthank, Devin Webb, and Michael Neale, who were part of the group.  Michael was the team leader, and was also an aspiring song writer.  Nate Carter had a heart to help us all develop our gift, so Frontline not only sang Nate’s songs, we sang Michael’s songs.  After we all graduated College, it was YEARS later when I moved back to Florida and re-connected with Michael.  I was working in a church in Boca Raton and Michael was leading music at Christ Fellowship in Palm Beach Gardens.

Michael gave me the opportunity to come serve with him at Christ Fellowship.  He actually made room for me on his team.  Michael introduced me to his Pastor, Todd Mullins.  Todd did not know me, or know what I could do.  But it was Michael’s influence that gained me a place at Christ Fellowship.  Michael writes beautiful songs, and can lead churches in to the presence of the Lord with music like no one can.  Yet,  Michael included me in helping to arrange his songs, to play for him as he sang, and maximized my gift as he attached it to his.  

After serving at Christ Fellowship, where I learned health in ministry and learned leadership, Pastor Todd began noticing me and took a chance in trying me out as one of his Campus Pastors.  Pastor Todd trained me and invested in my life.  He gave me the assignment of starting Christ Fellowship in Stuart, Florida.  After nine years of building the Stuart Campus, now I have built great relationships and influence beyond Christ Fellowship, throughout all of Martin County.  I have connections with Pastors, School Board Members, Law Enforcement, even Florida State Leaders! This all happened because Pastor Todd put me on his platform of leadership and created space for me to build influence through Christ Fellowship.

Pastors Todd & Julie Mullins celebrated with us on the first Sunday in the opening of our new building in Stuart!

I look back at my journey thus far and realize that key people were the key:

Larry & Susan Pilot	Parents who modeled pioneering leadership
David Basel	Music Pastor who gave me a front seat to his ministry
Winnie Swaim	Master Teacher who opened my eyes to the heart of God and to the gift of music
Nate Carter	Music Arranger and Band Leader who gave me a chance to do what he did so well
Michael Neale	Friend who made a place for me on his team and was always helping me win
Todd Mullins	Pastor who saw more in me than just a musician, and gave me the tools to become more

Not only are these people significant to opening doors for me – notice that one connected to the next.  My mom and dad connected me to David, who connected me to Mrs. Swaim, to Nate, to Michael, to Pastor Todd.  One door leads to another.

The key to opportunity is

always finding a key person in your life

If you are early on in your journey, and feel like you are on the outside looking in, here is my advice: go find someone that you want to be like, and serve them.  Now let me warn you: DON’T start with sharing your dream, and then ask them to mentor you.  Here is the key to connecting with them: serve them.  Add value to them.  Don’t even ask them.  Just find ways to support them, solve their problems, lift their load.  If you care what they care about, you will find that they will care about helping you get where you are going.

Luke 6:38

Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.

If you have already experienced great results in achieving your dream, I bet you have had help getting there.

What is your legacy lineage?

3 generations of Pilots in church.  Proud of my son, Michael!

I am sure if you thought about it and wrote down all of the people that impacted your life along the way, you might have some thank you notes to write and send.

My daughter, Madison sings beautiful and I play the piano for her!

I would encourage you to BE THE KEY for someone else.  Unlock the door.  Who is the young person standing over in the corner watching you? Who is always early and stays late just be around you, be around the great things God is doing in you and through you? Maybe they deserve some of your time.

The greatest gift we can give people is our time.

Here’s a challenge to you if you are successful/fruitful in your life:

Never do what you do alone

Always take someone with you

When you go to a job, or an appointment, stop and ask yourself: who could I invite to go with me? The car ride to the appointment is gold for them.  When you are planning your next event, stop and ask: who can I invite to be in the room with us as we plan? If you are a singer or musician and you are planning this week’s concert, or church service, ask yourself: can I give a solo to someone else? Can I give a part of the song to this musician to play? Let me encourage you: the song may struggle, but their dream will soar.

People are the key to opening doors to dreams

Ready, Set, Go!

Ever had a dream that was burning on the inside of you? You are passionate about it - it drives you, it fuels you.  

Ready to start it? Now?  It’s exciting to start pursuing it immediately - right?   After all, we need to Carpe Diem… Seize the day!  

Having a dream and a mandate to start it is a wonderful thing.  It's healthy, exhilarating.  And to not start pursuing your dream feels frustrating.  Not to drop what you are doing now to take steps today on your dream almost feels like procrastination.  And, procrastination is a bad thing, right?

Sometimes, when thinking of how we approach our dream, we need to first take a step back.

That’s not procrastination, that’s reflection.  

Successful people understand timing and preparation.  Successful people know that in order for their dream to be realized, the first order of things is to focus on the front end of the dream-launch.  Most of us like the “GO” part of launching into the pursuit of our dream.  However, a successful launch requires a

“READY, SET, GO!"

Relay racers put A LOT of focus on the “READY ,SET, GO” in the start of their race.  They don’t just stand casually at the starting line and then suddenly start running.  They have a strict regimen of preparation hours before the start of the race.  They get their mind in the right place.  They warm up their body and stretch.  When the race is minutes from starting, they get even more focused and place their feet in the starting blocks.  Finally, with their body in the optimal launching position, they fix their eyes forward, looking down the lane they will jet into.

Now, they...      

WAIT...            QUIET...            FOCUSED...                 NO MOVEMENT...

Every muscle is ready to ignite once they hear the pop of the gun go off.  For weeks, months, they have practiced this race - they have trained and conditioned their bodies.  They have watched the tape of their previous races to look for areas of improvement.  They have studied the best runners learning better technique.  All of this forethought and preparation has led them to this moment….              

     ...to WAIT...

This is a powerful mindset for us as we consider our dream, our calling.  Our tendency is to get started, to start running.  However, your dream, your calling deserves more preparation, it deserves more training.  

Ask yourself these questions:

What are you doing today to prepare for your dream?

Tell me your weekly rhythm of conditioning, of learning, of improving?

How much time do you block each week to dedicating to your dream?

The reason that “READY, SET, GO” is an essential sequence for your dream and calling is that you want to be able to last.  You will need to endure.  It is exciting and relatively easy to start something.  Seeing it through is quite more arduous.  It’s at the 50% mark that we lose steam, where we get discouraged and quit.  But winners don’t quit.  Here is the secret to not quiting… learn, train, prepare, set your mind right, count the cost.  That is the secret to winning, not just having a strong will.

If you have a dream and a calling, great! That is a gift from God.  He put that in you, not to frustrate you, but to help you fulfill it! However, you have to do your part.  Successful people are dedicated to the preparation process. 

Winning people are patient people - they measure, they learn, and they train themselves.  

When approaching your dream and your calling, use the mindset of:

READY   …   SET   …   GO!

Pressure

Performance creates pressure

Preparation takes hard work

Sharpening takes intentional practice

Improving takes conditioning

Athletes are familiar with these terms.  They are passionate about their sport, and they play to win.  Athletes don't play casually.  They want to taste victory - they want to win the championship!

Why is it that in our work place many times we show up casually, going through a check list of work that needs to be done, hoping that lunch time will come quickly? Why is it that when we feel pressure to perform, we respond with excuses or complaining that the demands being put on us are too much, they are unfair? When we run in to obstacles, or when the goals seem un-reachable, do we just throw our hands up in the air and give up easily?

I know your work place has it’s share of frustrations.  I know that there are parts of your job that you are not too excited about.  And when the boss brings goals that you must hit, you immediately feel pressure to perform.  In your mind, the last thing you need is more PRESSURE.

On the contrary, I want to challenge your thinking and tell you that PRESSURE is exactly what you need.  Pressure to perform, pressure to do what it takes to win, to hit your goals.  

You see, athletes USE pressure to push them.  Athletes understand that pressure is a necessary part of helping them to achieve their goal.  An athlete will push through the training, will learn new skills, will feel uncomfortable in order to perform effectively on the field.  An athlete will accept their coach shouting at them and confronting them to get better, to correct mistakes, and to not give up.

  

Certainly, there can be too much pressure…for sure… particularly if the pressure comes from negative thinking like self doubt and judgement.  Certainly, you need to self evaluate to see if you have rested well, if you have filled up in healthy ways through great relationships, through getting encouragement, through just having fun and play.  

But most of us see any pressure that comes at work as negative, as attacking us personally.  Rather…think like an athlete.  See your work as your mission, as the place where you can accomplish great things.  When the pressure comes, use it to make you better.  Respond to it by evaluating, planning, preparing, and then work hard! As my kids would say “kill it!"

Remember, It’s not about perfection, it’s about progress.  

It’s not about comparison, it’s about personal improvement.

Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t reach as high as someone else.  But, on the other hand, don’t give yourself a pass when the pressure comes to perform.

At the beginning of your work week, get your mind in the right place.  Prepare yourself mentally that you are going to start each day by:

1. evaluating your past performance
2. plan to work on the right tasks that will yield the most success
3. prepare by sharpening your skills
4. start working really hard toward hitting you goals - now! not later, not after you read through e-mails or talking to your co-worker

Push yourself.       Lean in.            Focus.  

Do your reps.        Get better.       Get faster.  

Work like an athlete.  Use the pressure to perform better! You will “kill it!!"